10 reasons why I love being married
A lot of people ask me how it feels to be married and I will tell you now why I love being married to my husband. Not just to anyone. Not because marriage is something you have to, it’s no obligation in my eyes. However I like it a lot and I will tell you 10 reasons why I love being married to him!
- We make the best of now. Being married is not about the dress or the big party. Yes, that’s nice for one day. But as you know we’ve gone through hard times, losing our daughter after a 4-month hospital period. We made the best of it then. We had a lot of support from family and friends, as well as from each other. Still today, we make the best of this situation. We make the best of every bumpy road in our lives. We make the best out of every simple thing on daily basis and a small gesture can mean a big thing!
- We take the best from both worlds. My husband is Kurdish from beginning and Swedish in his mentality. He is a very modern person. At the same time traditionally warm and loyal as it comes to our relationship for example. I am Dutch and adapting to a whole new world in Sweden. At our home, all those different pieces of our cultures come together and we make it our new world, with our new rules and we take the best of all those cultural differences.
- We respect each other. Respect is so important. I don’t agree with my husband all the time and he doesn’t agree with me all the time. We are not the same and see things different, however we always try to compromise. Compromise and respecting each others wishes is so important. The marriage is not about his wishes or only her wishes. It’s about living a life that we both like and feel comfortable with, wherever we are. In every occasion. This also means that I’m dressing up in a long dress to a Kurdish wedding, while I would rather wear a shorter version for example. It’s something his mom appreciates and I’m doing that for her, since his mother is important to us. In the same way, he let’s me visit my mother alone (take a trip to Holland) when I need to see her.
- We help and support each other. Marriage isn’t about the paper, it’s about supporting your partner wherever you can. I moved to Sweden for him and even more for his job. I had a great job in the Netherlands, being the face of Chanel in Douglas, but his job wasn’t as easily replaced as mine. However, he is supporting me with my blog for example, taking pictures and helping me out. I would always try my best to help my husband as much as I can, or simply support him as being his wife. I know he would do the same for me.
- We grow together. We are both internationally minded and open minded people. We love to grow in work, languages, ways of living, lifestyle, traveling, anything, you name it. We help each other grow. He helped me to learn the Swedish language. We have grown together in partnership and being parents. Now it was the right time to take the step to grow together in our marriage too. I’m so curious how we are in ten years from now, but I know we will still keep developing, alone as individuals, but as well, together as a couple.
- We make time for our marriage. Our life is a busy life with a lot of hectic days. We make the time to cook together or to watch a movie together, even during the week. WE-time is so important. The week can go by before you know it and you realize you have barely talked. I always ask my husband about his day. I try to listen and advice him or simply tell my opinion. As well as he calls me whenever he has one minute during work, just to ask how I am doing. We love to take a long walk in the weekend as well, to enjoy the nature and each other with our two poodles.
- We talk and talk. Communication is so important. It can be a small ‘good morning sms’ or just a quick phone call. It are those moments that matter. For example when you don’t feel like talking because you’re off, but your partner is the only person in the world that you trust with those worries. It’s so lovely to know that he’s always there for me, day and night! While struggling with our loss, we talked at 3 am, just about how much we missed our little Féline. Or sometimes we just see a sparkle in each others eyes and we know what we mean, without speaking. We talk until the struggles feel better, but we also share good news as fast as possible. Just for the sake of being happy together.
- We celebrate small goals. Everything that is positive is worth to celebrate in our marriage. It can be a special dinner together, but it can also be a cake I baked or something small like a ‘stroopwafel’ with coffee or tea. We’ve put some goals for our new year together, every 1st of January and when we achieve small steps we celebrate it together and we appreciate it. Celebrating big things like wedding or so, are part of that too. I love going on dates together and celebrating other peoples successes too.
- We love each other unconditionally. He showed me that he loves me, fully dressed-up, but as well without make-up or fancy clothes. He was always there when I needed him and loved me when I was in the hospital, sick, ugly and almost dying. He loves me when I’m upset and he loves me when I’m happy. I love him unconditionally too. I still love him after a bad mood or when he’s not in his best shape. We are human and we let each other be imperfect too. We forgive each others mistakes and try to solve problems together. We are looking forward to grow old together, no matter how that shapes out. We love the inside as much as the outside. We want the best for each other, even though that’s maybe not the best for ourselves. Do you have a partner like that? Marry him or her
- Being married to him is great. I am proud to say he is my husband and he’s proudly telling me “I love you, my wife”. It feels great! Being proud to tell someone else that I’ve married just the right one for me feels amazing. It’s so nice to stay together forever and give our life a deeper meaning together. Being faithful in the good and bad, the rich and poor fases in life. Knowing that I have the best man for me. I hope you can find yours as well, or maybe you are already married.
So after all the relationship talk… time for a little throwback to our amazing honeymoon. This gave me the perfect time to think about our marriage and realizing the 10 things why I love being married to my husband Mache.
As you can see here, he took the pictures of an outfit I wore while watching the sunset in Side, Turkey. I was wearing the Surreal Seascape Maxi Scarf from LEONOR. It’s from the enigmatic shore collection and 100% silk. The third scarf that I have received from this amazing brand from London. This scarf is however the biggest size (maxi) and you can even wrap it around your body as a dress. I loved the colors and I felt very fashionable while wearing it. It’s such a beautiful luxurious piece. I would love to hear what you think about the pictures and this scarf!
“Intense, fantastical, surreal…Rainbow skies, yellow waves, blue beaches…These are Enigmatic Shores.” – LEONOR
I was at my mom in the Netherlands for a couple of days, to care for her. That’s why I made an extra long post this time, instead of having several shorter posts during the week. I hope you enjoyed it. Let me know what you think of the 10 reasons why I love being married.
It was amazing that I could go to Holland to do that. I worked during the days on my laptop online as being a social media manager for a Telecom company in Stockholm. It feels great to have this flexibility. Thanks to the support of my husband as well. I have been writing this article in the plane home, dreaming back about the honeymoon and wearing this outfit with my new scarf!
Scarf: LEONOR London
Rings: Cartier / Tiffany & Co
Top: Gina Tricot
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