People talk behind your back. Thats just a fact. But you know, a lot of people think you don’t know that, just because you don’t pay attention to them. In this article I will explain why it’s not a problem that people talk behind your back and why you shouldn’t care.
Talk behind your back
It’s so obvious when you come into a room and p
eople get quiet. In these situations, the best thing is just to think “While you’re talking behind my back, feel free to bend down and kiss my ass” haha. And don’t forget to laugh about it. I have been in contact with people that talk behind my back and sometimes, we all talk about each other. For example that annoying colleague at work or that fake friend. But let’s be realistic. What does it mean when people talk behind your back? And why should you not care?
“While you’re talking behind my back, feel free to bend down and kiss my ass”
Your life is interesting
Actually, when people talk behind your back, their own life is probably not that interesting. If you have so much to talk about, what you’ve done in the weekend or your passions in life, you don’t have time to talk behind someones back, now do you? It must be that your life is so much more interesting to talk about. It’s obvously interesting enough to spend time on, instead of having positive vibes around, while having a good conversation.
I have a happy life, a husband who I love, two doggies, our second child is on the way, we bought a big house and I feel blessed. I count my blessing after everything we have been through, losing our daughter. I don’t have time for small minded people talking shit because they don’t know better. And neither should you!
Girl, your life is interesting when people talk about it! It’s something you should be thankful for.
Two steps ahead
Let them talk that talk. It shows when people talk behind your back, that you’re always two steps ahead darling. Do you seriously think they will talk about un-interesting things? So keep moving forward and go forward, your two steps ahead already! Don’t look back, let the people behind you be, that’s exactly where they are supposed to be. Looking at your back. My husband always says, when you look forward, you look into the future and when you look back, you can’t focus on the future things ahead. I’m not saying it’s bad to remember the past and think about it sometimes when you need to. That’s just healthy. I just think it’s good to realize that when you’re always two steps ahead, others will always be two steps back. It’s important to hang out with people of your own level. I can’t live or hang out with people that are always negative and make you feel bad about who you are. My motto for years: I am who I am, nobody said you had to like it. People misjudge me a lot, simply because they don’t know me and don’t dare to ask in my face. I know as being Dutch, I am straight forward and honest. I rather be hated for that, than to be loved for something I’m not. Hypocrite people are a decease to the world. I realize that fake people will always exist and talk behind your back. And that’s ok. That stage is their own learning path. They need to go through this level in order to grow.
“I am who I am, nobody said you had to like it…”
Usually it shows insecurity. When people are insecure and don’t know what to say more, why not speak about someone else? Even to hide insecurity. Nervous and insecure people do a lot of things to hide that they are actually very small and think low about themselves. It can be that they laugh a lot, just to hide how sad they are. Pretending like everything is funny what you say. Making jokes about every single comment… Or maybe they even believe their own fake smile just to feel better. One of the things they can do is talking behind your back. Just pay attention to the signs that are showing. If your instincts say, there’s something nervous or strange about that person, usually it’s like that. And it’s really not about you my dear! If your dearest friends and family love you, who can break you then? A low life person that has not seen more than a nightclub and drinking? Sleeping around to hide the loneliness? Girls that beg for attention by selling their bodies… Babe, don’t do that.
Or a person that doesn’t read a book, or never traveled outside their own country? The person that doesn’t dare to change partner because he or she is too afraid to end up alone. Or that single person that never starts a relationship because he or she is so insecure? But has the biggest stories about other peoples relationships? Do you take those people serious? Really? Just remember, if people have a problem with you and they don’t talk to you about it… problem solved right? Why would you even try and chase silly people? Let them be sweetheart! And don’t let their level rule your world.
I know that it’s not always easy for every one to just let it be and get over it. So if you really have issues with a person, talk with someone that does understand you and relieve some stress. However, my husband isn’t always the same sensitive as I can be. Men seems to live on another planet sometimes. Then it’s just better to talk to a girl friend instead. Same for men, if your wife isn’t understanding you because, really, you don’t express it in a good way, maybe it’s better to go play pool and come back happy. Men solve problems different. They give each other a smack in the face or they watch football and their problems are forgotten.
Don’t give people the power to poison your relationship. Especially women can be so mean. But actually it’s just so stupid to give them the power to poison. If you simply dust of your shoulders and let it go, they can keep their own negativity. Just give that little bottle of poison back. Don’t drink it!
I have some songs that can cheer you up when you’re having a bad time and you just want to have some inspiration to turn your feelings into a stronger attitude, or just laugh about the lyrics ’cause they are hilarious sometimes! Music always keeps my mood up and it makes you realize that everyone has a bad day sometimes. Don’t forget.
You know, to talk about problems or when you’re worried and caring about someone, doesn’t mean your gossiping. There’s a difference between talking behind someones back and ventilating about your worries for someone. Which is usually meant in a good way and with love.
Oh and I am not a shrink, I’m just telling you my opinion. Thanks for reading it all the way until the end.
Let me know how you deal with negative people and people that talk behind your back, in a comment below. Don’t forget to keep your head up high!
Playlist for “the backstabbers”:
1. Cry me a river – Justin Timberlake
2. Miss Movin’ On – Fifth Harmony
3. Potential Break Up Song – Aly & AJ
4. Leave (Get out) – JoJo
5. Rather Be – Clean Bandit
6. Ur so Gay – Katy Perry
7. Fuck You – CeeLo Green
8. Take a Bow – Rihanna
9. Fuck it (I don’t want you back) – Eamon
10. Backstabber – Kesha
11. Sleazy – Kesha
13. Since you been gone – Kelly Clarkson
14. Kill em with Kindness – Selena Gomez
15. Leave my heart out – Fifth Harmony
Love and hugs,