Doing my best here to raise a gentleman out of Mason. As they say “Every man that treats his woman as a princess, was raised by a queen”. Ok, that’s a bit dramatic, but the point is, as a mom of a son, I feel a little bit pressure to make sure he’s treating women (and men) well. Isn’t that not a bit early, since he’s only seven months? I don’t think so!
Raising a gentleman
I think that good habits come from good examples. As being the parents of Mason, we should give the best example that we can. There is simply behavior for adults’ eyes only (like arguing in a certain way). I like to keep the spirit around Mason happy, healthy and light. As I feel, he deserves to grow up in a stable environment. However, we all get impatient sometimes. But we are adults and we can adapt. However, a baby is still so small and what can he do when he feels frustrated, tired, angry, scared or simply hungry? Yes, cry! And some other signs that come before the crying starts. I try to respond to those signs, to avoid most of the crying. Anyway…
From the start, I like to give good examples, as I said. But what are good habits, what is a good example? What is a gentleman? It’s all written in books about the perfect behavior according to traditions and culture. Now that he’s a baby, let’s take some baby steps.
“It’s part of the #lifegoal making the world a better place.”
At home, we tell him to be gentle to our dogs. Treat animals with respect while visiting the farm with goats for example. With other children, to be gentle to them and to share his toys. Even though he’s only seven months, he understands the tone of our voices and he knows when we mean that he’s doing something that it’s not completely how we mean him to act. It’s not that I am super strict, but I just tell him how to do it different and I show him how. The time is passing every day and of course he will gets smarter and bigger every day. So, for every fase he is in, he will learn new behavior and so I will take the same baby steps in raising a gentleman out of him.
Another thing we are doing already now, is eating together at the dinner table. It makes the dinner (and breakfast and lunch) a cosy time together, as well as it’s a preview to the table manners I’d like him to have later when growing up.
In my opinion, the way my husband Mache is treating me, will show Mason how to treat other woman too. That’s a big part of raising a gentleman. As well as, how I am acting towards Mache. Mason understands emotions already now. Mason understands feelings, maybe he can’t in the same way as an older child, but he’s simply not a baby anymore. There’s a lot of studies that babies already register a lot of behavior. I have studied child psychology when I was studying my bachelor of education before I worked as a primary school teacher. It was part of the study and very interesting actually. Some of our behavior is in our nature, but other we get by experiencing things.
Long story short; I’m trying to raise Mason into a gentleman. It’s something I appreciate a lot from other men. It’s part of the #lifegoal making the world a better place. Mason will be part of the new generation. The future. I know I’m not flawless and I am not perfect. I don’t feel like I’m better than others. Or I know better than others. Not at all. But I try hard to do well. For Mason, for myself, for others around me.
“I know I am not flawless and I am not perfect.”
As I like fashion a lot, matching sweaters are something I appreciate. When I ordered my own text on the sweaters for Mason and I, I thought it would be funny to put ‘gentleman’ on his and me ‘raising a gentleman’. Of course, Mache wanted a sweater as well… didn’t expect him to like his haha. But Mason is always with me, while Mache is at work. So this feels like a funny thing. Maybe I should get him a new sweater for Valentines’ Day? I ordered the matching sweaters at Marie Marcel. I really like this brand from Belgium. The quality of the sweaters is really good. The letters are printed great and the sweaters are soft from inside and not too thick for the coming season. I like that they are comfy (not too tight, I’m wearing size xs/s) and Mason can still grow a bit (he’s wearing a 74/80).
It wasn’t that easy to find a funny text on the sweaters, since there are so many possibilities… basically everything is possible! So if you have any funny ideas for a text on a matching sweater with Mason, or Mache, let me know in a comment.
Mason and I – sweater by Marie Marcel
Me: Shirt – Overhemden.com | Shorts – Zara
Mason: baby pants: HEMA | Nijntje Socks – C&A
Which text would you like to have on a new, maybe matching, sweater?
Do you have any other advice on raising a gentleman?
Stay Gentle <3
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