Outfit Parenting

Raising a gentleman

Doing my best here to raise a gentleman out of Mason. As they say “Every man that treats his woman as a princess, was raised by a queen”. Ok, that’s a bit dramatic, but the point is, as a mom of a son, I feel a little bit pressure to make sure he’s treating women (and men) well. Isn’t that not a bit early, since he’s only seven months? I don’t think so!

Marie Marcel www.sofarsosabine.com mommy blogger

Marie Marcel www.sofarsosabine.com mommy blogger

Raising a gentleman

I think that good habits come from good examples. As being the parents of Mason, we should give the best example that we can. There is simply behavior for adults’ eyes only (like arguing in a certain way). I like to keep the spirit around Mason happy, healthy and light. As I feel, he deserves to grow up in a stable environment. However, we all get impatient sometimes. But we are adults and we can adapt. However, a baby is still so small and what can he do when he feels frustrated, tired, angry, scared or simply hungry? Yes, cry! And some other signs that come before the crying starts. I try to respond to those signs, to avoid most of the crying. Anyway…

From the start, I like to give good examples, as I said. But what are good habits, what is a good example? What is a gentleman? It’s all written in books about the perfect behavior according to traditions and culture. Now that he’s a baby, let’s take some baby steps.

“It’s part of the #lifegoal making the world a better place.”

Marie Marcel www.sofarsosabine.com mommy blogger

Marie Marcel www.sofarsosabine.com mommy blogger

Baby steps

At home, we tell him to be gentle to our dogs. Treat animals with respect while visiting the farm with goats for example. With other children, to be gentle to them and to share his toys. Even though he’s only seven months, he understands the tone of our voices and he knows when we mean that he’s doing something that it’s not completely how we mean him to act. It’s not that I am super strict, but I just tell him how to do it different and I show him how. The time is passing every day and of course he will gets smarter and bigger every day. So, for every fase he is in, he will learn new behavior and so I will take the same baby steps in raising a gentleman out of him.
Another thing we are doing already now, is eating together at the dinner table. It makes the dinner (and breakfast and lunch) a cosy time together, as well as it’s a preview to the table manners I’d like him to have later when growing up.

In my opinion, the way my husband Mache is treating me, will show Mason how to treat other woman too. That’s a big part of raising a gentleman. As well as, how I am acting towards Mache. Mason understands emotions already now. Mason understands feelings, maybe he can’t in the same way as an older child, but he’s simply not a baby anymore. There’s a lot of studies that babies already register a lot of behavior. I have studied child psychology when I was studying my bachelor of education before I worked as a primary school teacher. It was part of the study and very interesting actually. Some of our behavior is in our nature, but other we get by experiencing things.

Long story short; I’m trying to raise Mason into a gentleman. It’s something I appreciate a lot from other men. It’s part of the #lifegoal making the world a better place. Mason will be part of the new generation. The future. I know I’m not flawless and I am not perfect. I don’t feel like I’m better than others. Or I know better than others. Not at all. But I try hard to do well. For Mason, for myself, for others around me.

“I know I am not flawless and I am not perfect.”

Marie Marcel www.sofarsosabine.com mommy blogger

Matching sweaters

As I like fashion a lot, matching sweaters are something I appreciate. When I ordered my own text on the sweaters for Mason and I, I thought it would be funny to put ‘gentleman’ on his and me ‘raising a gentleman’. Of course, Mache wanted a sweater as well… didn’t expect him to like his haha. But Mason is always with me, while Mache is at work. So this feels like a funny thing. Maybe I should get him a new sweater for Valentines’ Day? I ordered the matching sweaters at Marie Marcel. I really like this brand from Belgium. The quality of the sweaters is really good. The letters are printed great and the sweaters are soft from inside and not too thick for the coming season. I like that they are comfy (not too tight, I’m wearing size xs/s) and Mason can still grow a bit (he’s wearing a 74/80).

It wasn’t that easy to find a funny text on the sweaters, since there are so many possibilities… basically everything is possible! So if you have any funny ideas for a text on a matching sweater with Mason, or Mache, let me know in a comment.

Mason and I – sweater by Marie Marcel
Me: Shirt – Overhemden.com | Shorts – Zara 
Mason: baby pants: HEMA | Nijntje Socks – C&A

Marie Marcel www.sofarsosabine.com mommy blogger

Which text would you like to have on a new, maybe matching, sweater?

Do you have any other advice on raising a gentleman?

Stay Gentle <3


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  • Reply
    Leny van der Knaap
    7 February 2018 at 09:46

    Heel erg leuk en het staat jullie allebei erg leuk, ik heb wel een idee, erg eenvoudig maar het zegt genoeg denk ik LOVE, dat zegt genoeg denk ik ?

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    7 February 2018 at 12:33

    Geweldig! Vind jullie outfits zo leuk. En ik denk zeker dat goed voorbeeld goed doet volgen. We hopen onze meiden dat ook mee te geven, met oog op toekomstige partners. Het liefst zie je toch dat ze alleen een relatie beginnen met iemand die hen gelijkwaardig behandelt.

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    7 February 2018 at 18:09

    Wat een super leuke outfits! Echt te cute!

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    7 February 2018 at 22:06

    Wat leuk! Mooie foto’s ook. Heel belangrijk om ze op te voeden met normen en waarden. Gaan we met ons ukkie ook doen. Deur openhouden enzo… u zeggen. Vind ik heel belangrijk!

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    nicole orriens
    8 February 2018 at 08:56

    Heel herkenbaar! Ik vind het ook erg belangrijk dat mijn zonen gentlemen zijn! Mijn jongste houdt bijvoorbeeld altijd netjes de deur voor me open : )

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    8 February 2018 at 16:06

    Oh my God, da’s echt kei schattig! <3

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    8 February 2018 at 17:13

    Leuke foto’s! En ja, ik denk er hetzelfde over. Goed voorbeeld doet goed volgen. Daarnaast weet ik als geen ander hoe belangrijk het is om een fijne en stabiele omgeving op te groeien. Mijn jeugd was niet zo leuk helaas.

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    8 February 2018 at 21:04

    Respect voor ouderen en sowieso voor je medemens. Altijd ‘U’ zeggen tegen iemand die ouder is. Niets op straat gooien. Alles opruimen (speelgoed) voordat je gaat slapen. Zo een aantal dingen die in mij opkomen. Een tekst zou ik zo spontaan even niet weten. Echt iets om over na te denken. In ieder geval iets met liefde of houden van <3

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    8 February 2018 at 22:16

    Wat lief! Ik hoop ook dat ze echte heren worden later. We kunnen ze alleen maar sturen en hopen dat ze de juiste keuzes zullen blijven maken. 🙂

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    8 February 2018 at 22:39

    Wat supercute die truitjes en de foto’s! Die quote maakt het helemaal af.

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    8 February 2018 at 23:08

    Dit is wel echt veel te lief! Wat een super leuke outfits.

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    Sondra Barker
    9 February 2018 at 09:07

    Yes yes yes! It is all about having that strong bond between mother and son. So adorable. Can’t go wrong with more gentlemen in the world!

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    Jasmin N
    9 February 2018 at 09:39

    This is all so true! We have the responsibility to grow our sons people who respects everyone & knows how to behave 🙂 great post!

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    kitty limon
    9 February 2018 at 11:18

    couldn’t agree more with teaching our children the right way in life, I’m trying my best to ensure I do the same with my son.

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    9 February 2018 at 12:13

    Such a beautiful outfit! You look so cute and trendy, both of you! I do believe that children raised carefully and with love by their mothers will be the best kids and men when they grow up!

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    Sandra Turel
    9 February 2018 at 18:27

    I agree with you. You are giving your son a good basis.

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    9 February 2018 at 19:50

    Hoe leuk om te machten met je zoon! Ik heb 2 dochters en twinning vinden ze ook altijd erg leuk

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    Karoliina Kazi
    9 February 2018 at 23:24

    Loved reading this post – I think it’s so important to raise children to be kind to all humans and animals. You’re a great mum and I love your matching jumpers!

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    10 February 2018 at 02:29

    You’re doing a great job, Mama! Your son is lucky to have you (and your husband) to teach and lead by example. And the matching sweatshirts are too cute!! xoxo

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    Nicole Shillings
    10 February 2018 at 17:34

    Well aren’t those just precious!!! My best friend has three boys! I need to get these for her.

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    11 February 2018 at 22:46

    Ik denk inderdaad dat hoe je man jou en andere vrouwen behandeld, het grootste voorbeeld is. Ik ben gelukkig gezegend met een man die me als een prinses behandeld en hopelijk neemt onze zoon dat over.

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    12 February 2018 at 17:15

    Ten eerste, wat een super toffe outfits!! Echt top! En ik ben het helemaal met je eens, je moet zelf het goede voorbeeld geven, ze leren het tenslotte van mama en papa

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