I would like to give you a pregnancy update about the third trimester. I have been thinking a lot about sharing some info, because I get a lot of questions and I would like to share my feelings and thoughts about the third trimester of my pregnancy.
It’s the first time that I experience the third trimester, since my first pregnancy was stopped at week 26.6 due to an emergency C-section, to safe my life. I was very ill, I had pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome. Our first daughter lived for four months only. Her name was Féline as many of you know.
Now that I am passed week 28 and I’m into the third trimester, like I said, for the first time. It’s all new what’s happening now. One of the things that we are experiencing as parents of the baby, are the little hiccups. This is so new and so funny. I feel the baby ‘shaking’ every time he’s having a hiccup. Yup, it’s a ‘he’. It’s a boy. We kept it a secret for very long, but now basically all our friends and family knows. It’s great to receive a boy after having a girl. We are thinking a lot about boys names, so if you have some suggestions please let me know in a comment below!
As long as the baby is healthy
We didn’t care if it was going to be a boy or girl, as long as the baby would be healthy. And we can relax a bit more now that we passed week 28. The difference between week 24, 26 and 28 by early born babies is massive. Week 26 can still be very dangerous but week 28 is much better. Even though the difference is only two weeks. It’s got a lot to do with the lungs development. In one of my pregnancy apps they assume that 90% of the baby’s born after week 28 will make it. While we got informed at week 26 that it was only 25% of the babies. Numbers and percentages are always hard to take as a guideline, because every case of prematurity is different. Since I was sick, our daughter didn’t grow well already before she was born. They assumed her lungs were the lungs of a 24 week-er instead of a 26.6 week-er. The pre-eclampsia caused that. Well whatever the reasons are, she was gone too fast and we miss her a lot now that we are expecting a new baby. We would love for her to experience it with us. Even though she’s an angel and I’m sure she’s out there somewhere watching over us.
Right now, I have a lot of extra controls, but my pregnancy is like any other normal pregnancy. The doctors are very caring and taking a lot of extra tests, like urine and blood pressure tests every week. This is to see if there are any signs of pre-eclampsia. We had an extra ultrasound in week 28 now also. Just to measure the growth of the baby and to see if every thing was going well according to a normal pregnancy. My belly growing just fine, it’s already 26 cm, which is exactly on the curve, exactly in the middle. So absolutely perfect.
Right now, the baby is 1140 gram and when I heard that, I got a bit emotional. Of course it’s great news, but I remember that around week 26 he was only 800 gram. When Féline was born, she was only 740 gram. She struggled so much to gain weight and become 1kg. That was really not easy, she was fighting for her life and trying to breath on the ventilator. This takes so much energy that gaining weight isn’t that easy. And her little brother is just growing and sleeping and kicking relaxed in the belly and before we even realized it, he was already 1140 gram. Amazing news, but such a difference it makes when a baby is still inside the bump. The best place for a baby is to be inside the mom, until the baby tells that it’s time to go out.
Maybe you’re wondering if I am sad a lot? I am not. I am grateful for this new experience. I know that Féline had to walk her own path, for whatever reason. She needed two strong parents and that’s why we could be there for her. Her little brother has it’s own path too. My husband and I chose to stick together and after some time, we decided to marry and start to try to become pregnant again. Because we have been through the worst thing in life; losing a child, we have bonded a lot. We became a strong team. We know that we can trust each other in any circumstance. This is very valuable. So grateful that we are together and that we got blessed with another child. Whatever the outcome is, even if this baby is born a bit early too (there’s always a risk still), we know that we can handle that again. This time we are already passed week 28 which is absolutely great news. Our next goal is week 32. Then the lungs will be developed much more. However after week 34-35 the lungs are completed. So it’s important to even pass that week also. (Source LongFonds Stichting).
Here is a video about the lung development in the womb (in Dutch) – LongFonds Stichting.
For now, we are counting down the weeks from +/12 more weeks to go. We are still decorating the nursery room and of course buying all the stuff the little one needs. It’s such a process and such a wonderful experience. I think the baby room is already the most beautiful room in the house haha! I am trying to start some pregnancy yoga soon. We did a course for parents too, to help us be a team during the delivery. This is going to be so excited, I absolutely trust my husband in being there for me in this experience. Mache is such a strong man and big support. I hope I don’t get too upset while I am in labor pain haha. I have been reading a lot of other pregnancy experiences on blogs and it’s wonderful to share this together.
So please help us out with some great baby boys names and wish me luck the last trimester!
Lots of kicks from the little one,
More photo’s of week 28 in this outfit post